The Mother’s Day Aftermath


Well, another Mother’s Day has come and gone and so it’s back to the grind. Really the whole mother’s day thing is a big scam. Everyday should be mother’s day with the amount of stuff we mothers do and the things we put up with! Everyone talks about how they are going to spend their mother’s day; what they are going to do with their family, how they are going to be “spoiled.” Well, you know what I wanted for mother’s day this year? The day off!
Maybe I’m being selfish, maybe I’m being a brat, or maybe I’m being honest and saying the thing that some women are too scared to say out loud (although they are thinking it). I don’t need a special day to spend with my family- I spend every day with them anyway! We do fun, meaningful stuff all the time. If it is truly “mother’s” day, then shouldn’t it be a day for me to do what I really want?
So this year I told my husband I wanted to sleep in- undisturbed- something I haven’t been able to do since having my first child almost 5½ years ago. I also wanted to be able to take a nap; again something I haven’t really done in many, many years (can you tell that I am constantly sleep deprived?). I also told him I was off-duty when it came to wiping my sons’ butts because I’m usually the one doing that. I also did not want to have anything to do with the cooking or cleaning; again something I am usually in charge of. I wasn’t asking to leave the house or be away from my family (although, to be quite honest a few hours away would have been amazing), I just wanted to be able to relax and take it easy and have minimal responsibilities for just one day!
Don’t get me wrong- I love my family dearly and I love being a mother, but sometimes I long for the days when I wasn’t responsible for the life of 2 little people; the days when I could be irresponsible, sleep in until noon, go shopping and spend what I wanted… But, those days are gone and that’s okay, but having just one day to myself really isn’t too much to ask when the other 364 days in the year I give so much of myself to my family and to the kids I work with.
I must say, the hubby was a total trooper about my “day off.” He got up early and took the child monitors downstairs with him so I wouldn’t hear the kids wake up. When they did wake up, which miraculously I didn’t hear, he got them up and ready and gave them breakfast. At one point, I did wake up and I heard him say, “Come on, let’s go outside and play so we can let Mommy sleep.” And when I turned to look to see what time it was, there was a card sitting on my clock radio. I opened my card, read it, and went back to sleep with a smile on my face and a warmth in my heart. When I did finally get up (and it wasn’t even that late, 9:30am), I went downstairs to see my husband and kids making me Belgian waffles for breakfast- my favorite! I was greeted by my 2 little cuties shouting, “Mommy, did you know it’s Mother’s Day today?” Why yes, I do know it’s Mother’s Day- the only reason I was able to sleep in past 7:30!
As the day continued, my husband upheld his side of the deal. I did not wipe any butts all day (woo hoo!), nor did I make any meals or clean anything up. AND, I got to take my nap! At around 12:30 I announced that the kids needed lunch and then their naps and that I was going upstairs to take a nap myself. My husband gave me a kiss and so did my kids and upstairs I went. I hunkered down under my covers and fell asleep- for 4 hours!! I told you I was sleep deprived! I got up and went outside and played with my kids. We played baseball, rolled around in the grass, played soccer, and played with our new chickens. In a word, we had fun! Later on, my husband made the kids dinner and then we put them to bed. Then the hubby made a meal for the two of us and we ate it and shared a bottle of wine while watching our favorite TV show. After that we went to bed. (I think that is the most sleep I have gotten in the last 5 years!) All-in-all it was a relaxing and stress-free Mother’s Day, which is exactly what I wanted. We all need a day here and there to relax, rejuvenate, and regroup (the three r’s of the 21st Century). It keeps the mind and body healthy. Having a day like that taught me that it is okay to ask for the day off once in a while, even if it isn’t the second Sunday in May.